by Spaz » Sun Dec 24, 2006 7:21 am
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Spaz tends to be a bit sensitive when his opinions/ideas are questioned. That has nothing to do with anyone other than Spaz.
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First off, before I address Eight 6, I'd like to apologize to all for turning this into a Spaz issue, which was not my intention at all. I only mentioned past situations to bring up MikeP's honest, fair and patient attitude towards people on this board, whether he likes them or not (and he's never really told me who he likes and dislikes so please don't read anything into that).
Back to Eight 6... and my hopefully last non-music related post on this board....
This post is not filled with venom or even the slightest bit of anger so don't read it as such. It is not a defensive diatribe towards you although it is directed at you. Read it as a 'matter of fact' answer to your comments about me...
I believe, and I'm hoping others might agree, that it is YOU who have a problem with those that disagree with YOUR opinions. I don't ever expect anyone to agree with me (apart from this statement) and I'm quite happy when people do. If people disagree, then that's fine, too.
But I've never responded to somebody's differing opinion....only their over-the-top attack that I felt was unnecessary. Was the disagreement unnecessary? Probably not, but I sometimes see other peoples' passions attacked by you, which I find unnerving at times. Maybe it's just me misreading your intentions. I'll admit to that.
You, on the other hand, seem to spend to much time disagreeing on this board...maybe just for the fun of it? You do seem quite intelligent and witty but filled with too much spite and anger towards me and a few others on this board. Hey, if you think I"m a dick then just don't get up and respond to my postings. For the most part, I ignore yours, whether I agree or disagree. I just don't feel like getting into it.
Whatever I've done towards you in the past that you took personal, then I am truly sorry. Those who know me know that I'm a decent, upstanding and very likeable person. I have very few enemies, if any.
Well, maybe here....
Am I too sensitive? No, I don't think so. Opinions are opinions. We've all got them...and I admire those who stand up for what they believe. But I sometimes feel that you, and to a lesser extent, others, can be condescending towards others. We have the right to express our opinions without fear of retaliation. It's oft been said on this board that many don't want retaliation and won't post their opinions. That's just wrong.
I've been a lurker on many other sites and have posted as well and they never resort to a playground mentality that this place often does. Should I call you a bully? I believe that I have in the past and still think that you might have some personal issues that need to be dealt with, but don't we all? I've got plenty and I won't deny it for one moment. We all do, to varying degrees. But I could be wrong...maybe you don't have issues and your somewhat aggressive opinions are always right?
And just like many people here, I'm not sheltered, spoiled or stupid and I've experienced way too much heartache, death, divorce, depression and living with a birth defect, etc. Basically, I'm human. If you catch me on the right day, I'll laugh about it all. If you catch me on a bad day, it can be too much to bear. But that is life. But when I come to a place to learn and share about music and I see people getting dumped on for whatever reason (by you or whoever), it leaves me cold and I don't post music info.
I work and write about music (mostly imports) every day and I get tracklistings, info, bonus tracks, reissue news, etc weeks and sometiems months ahead of the release date. I come to this site to share it but see so much trivial crap that I just don't feel excited about it and go back to what I was doing at work. In 2007, I'll just stay away from this area and just post in the music areas.
Aren't you a lucky bully?
And it's useless to jump all over me about this post. I feel it is civil and self-explanatory. There's no viciousness hidden in here. I'm sure you'll be all over it, but maybe take it offline? We know you're going to have some intelligent, witty things to say in response...and it's kind of predictable now. I won't respond to your words unless you take it off this board. It's up to you to decide whether you want to peacefully (or unpeacefully) discuss these issues away from everyone else.
And one more thing (to anyone that is still reading)
I want to share this with you. In the past, when things got way too personal, there were a few guys who felt it necessary (at the time) to attack me personally. I honestly don't know why they weren't locked off the board at the time, but I don't hold grudges against the moderators for not stepping in. Almost immediately, Hutter apologized in a very nice personal e-mail. I don't hold grudges, so I immediately accepted and have not even given a negative thought towards him again. Now, Eight6 and Motors were a different story. I think that Motors was actually the most vicious of the three, but I'm not sure. It was all pretty hurtful and stopped me from posting much in the recent months.
Today, I recieved a very nice e-mail from Motors. An apology. I did not ask for it nor was I expecting it. And I decided that I was going to publicly accept that apology (and I'll send him an e-mail, too) and give him all the respect he deserves. A supreme gesture from someone that I would never have spoken to six hours ago, but now have not one ounce of anomosity towards. I thank you for that, MOtors. It was truly a cool thing to do (and you even publicly did the same...another fine gesture). I shall crown you Sir Motors (I've got to find Sir Hutter's paperwork and get that filed with the Queen as well).
No, I don't expect Eight6 to apologize. I don't believe that he has anything to apologize for. His opinions are facts, I suppose.
But I do wish him a Merry Christmas. Or Happy HOliday. I'm not quite sure what his religion is, but I wish him well.
And also to Hutter and Motors. We may not end up being the best buds, but if they ask for those custom made Spaz comps, they'll get them!!!!
Please enjoy your Christmas everyone. Stay safe and be sure to let everyone know what new wave things you found under the tree!
SPAZ
Born of innocence. Free of ignorance.